Crystal -- I am just 18 and in my first sexual experiences. Always safe sex. Here is a question I cannot get my self to ask my current girlfriend, who has more experience than I do. First, can a girl tell the difference when a guy is using a condom or not? And does it make a difference in the quality of the sex? Second, can a girl tell when a guy cums when he is/is not using a condom? And does it make a difference.

Thanks

Well hello there Mr. Anonymous 18 year old...How's it going?  Glad you stumbled onto my site.  This is a good place to ask questions when it's hard to ask someone more experienced than you.  And at your age, guys are trying so hard to be macho the thought of asking a girl a sex question is totally out of the picture.  I have answers for you but I'm trying hard not to read more into these questions.  I hope your inquiries aren't in some way leading to you wanting to try to pull a fast one on a girl and tell her you are wearing a condom when indeed you aren't.  Anyway, here is what I think...Can you tell the difference between condom and no condom?  I'd say yes for a couple of reasons.  One, when trying to slip your dick in for the first time, that little reservoir tip has a telltale feeling to it when it's rubbing around your entrance.  Two, I can definitely say that if you have pubic hair, whether it's trimmed down tight or au naturale, you can still feel a definite difference as the base of the condom is rubbing around down there.  But, just for science purposes, I do want to point out that believe it or not, there aren't a whole lot of nerve endings that are ultra-sensitive actually in the vaginal canal and as tight as condoms are, you can't really feel them in there.  Just those two little places, the tip and the base.  Especially if you say your girl is more experienced than you, she would be able to tell the difference for sure.  Quality of sex you ask?  I know for you there is a difference, the sensitivity in your penis is being masked by a thin layer of latex, but for us, all we need is our clit stimulated or our g-spot hit and we are good.  We aren't the ones wearing the condom so it doesn't desensitize anything for us.  Your third question about a girl knowing when you cum is a little more complicated.  I know that if a guy tried to fake an orgasm on me, condom or not, especially if he were someone I've had sex with before, I would know.  Women learn to know what the little, almost hard to detect feelings are of a man's penis throbbing and pulsing as they are ejaculating.  Especially if we practice our Kegel exercises and can squeeze down on you with our pussy.  I don't know a woman that could actually feel the "squirting" of the cum but the spasm of the penis, for sure.  And of course that doesn't matter if you are wearing a condom or not.  I would advise though that you don't cum in a condom and try to play it off like you didn't and keep going just so she will think that you are some stud because although the semen goes into the reservoir tip, if you keep pumping away in there, there is a definite chance of it seeping back out.  So please, feel free to ask me more questions and continue to be safe.  For you and for her.  You are way too young to be living with possibly a disease or a baby for the rest of your life.  And take into consideration that there is a whole bunch of fun condoms you can choose from to keep it fun in the bedroom, there are ultra-sensitive for you, ribbed, flavored, colored and even condoms that have little bumps and nubbies on the inside to pleasure you too.  Have fun!  Be safe!