Hi Crystal,

      I think my question is probably really straight forward and easy.  I have anal sex off and on with a couple people and it was always few and far in between and only if I was drinking or inebriated somehow, which made it easier.  Now I am in a long term relationship with someone I love a lot and plan on being with for a long, long time, if not forever...I'm the first person he's ever had anal sex with and of course fell in love but it's not something he asks for too often but when he does ask, I like to give it to him.  My only dilemma is that being clean and sober, well taking his cock up my ass isn't exactly the easiest feat to contend with.  He isn't packing like a 12" dick or anything but he is above average and I am finding it harder and harder to let him in there.  Recently I got over my fear of trying what the experts say about pushing out a little while he is trying to push in, kinda like you gotta go to the bathroom.  I noticed that made things way easier, but one thing that I need help with is that baby oil works well for me but he says it is a little abrasive on his dick.  Is there a different lube you can recommend that will be thick enough that he doesn't wanna slide in too fast but that won't hurt him?  I appreciate your help...

 -Amanda

Hey Amanda, thanks for writing!  You are right, that is a relatively easy question to answer.  But it's not exaclty straight forward...I can give you some suggestions and then you will just have to chose whatever is best for you from trial and error.  The first thing I would recommend is for you to try out a silicone-based lubricant like Vivid Girl.  They don't dry up because they aren't primarily made of water.  They are also condom compatible but it doesn't sound like you guys are using condoms.  They do require soap and water for clean up though.  They are usually very thick and stay slick for a long time.  The other thing is the baby oil you are using is leaving an oily residue that can coat your rectum and lead to bacterial infections.  Don't want any of those in your booty.  And the last thing I want to mention, although you may not feel you need it but for my other readers that have this same question; there are the lubes that have desensitizing agents in them to help ease into the anal sex world.  Products like Anal Eze and and Tush Eze.  These types of lubes have Benzocaine in them to help numb the anal area and are required to work into the area a few minutes before penetration.  The only thing with these lubes is that you want to make sure he is wearing a condom or else his cock will also be desensitized and then he'll be ramming that little tight ass of yours all night!  Ouch!  Thanks for writing, let me know what works!  And have fun...

 -Crystal