Hi Crystal,

I'm dealing with a fling from the past that I use to be sooooooooo into. The sex was awesome and I had so many multiple orgasms with him... now that he is back in the picture and i'm a bit older (5 years older) things aren't the same anymore and i'm very disapointed by it. I haven't had a single orgasm with him!!! WTF?! This is the guy that would just simply touch me and I would just get extra wet!!! Now I think I have better luck getting my ownself wet :( I tried using toys with him... and it gets me pretty excited but without them we're nothing. I really like him and want to get all those feelings back because let me tell you our sex was beyond incredible... anytime, anywhere... man... those where the days. What are your thoughts?

Melly from Los Angeles

 Good evening Melly,

      I hear your problem and I definitely feel for you.  But I have to say that the very first thing that comes to mind is: are you still mentally into him?  Sometimes sex and the excitement that precedes or follows it is mental.  You said, "use to be".  Maybe you are still living in the past and memories can be deceiving.  It seems that since you have been able to introduce sex toys into the bedroom without him freaking out that you have good communication with him.  Have you talked to him about your problem or are you bringing the toys into bed on false pretenses?  Think back to the things he used to do to you back then and try to recreate them.  What toys are you guys using?  And if he is okay with it I would definitely have him try using a vibrating cock ring while you have sex.  This will wrap around the base of his penis (which will help him maintain an erection longer and prolong his orgasm) with a bullet shaped vibrator on top that will vibrate on your clit while he is inside you.  This can definitely help.  They are tons of fun and since they are small, they are less likely to intimidate him.  Please keep me up to date and let me know how it goes.  Good luck!