crystal

Im a big girl and i have yet to reach orgasm. do you think its because of my weight? also is there any type of toy that can accommodate someone like me?

Claudia
in pasadena

Hi Claudia! 

     Great question... being overweight can definitley be a factor in low sex drive.  And I stress the work can.  Let me explain why.  The more body fat you have, the higher levels of a natural protein called sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG) occur.  This protein binds itself to the sex hormone testosterone.  The reason that this is important is because the more testosterone that is bound to SHBG, the less there is available to stimulate desire.  But...and there is a but...the good news is that research has shown that a healthier diet with less fat and more fresh fruits and veggies can really boost your sex drive.  On top of that, any exercise that increases blood flow to your pelvic or buttocks areas such as power walking or cycling is likely to produce more arousal and lubrication, leading to a heightened state of sexual desire.  There other thing that you should be doing too, especially since you said you have never had an orgasm, is to be more comfortable with yourself and learn more about yourself down there.  Really take time out to touch and explore, heck, get a mirror and look around down there!  We have all done it!  Learn what feels good.  Then you can definitely go out and buy yourself a toy.  I would suggest a vibrator and dildo combo.  One with separate controls for each.  Anything in the iVibe Rabbit family is really good.  They have a section right in the middle of the dildo part with pearls that roll around producing a great feeling on the inside of your pussy while the external clit stimulator should more than do the trick to bringing you to your first mind-altering, toe-curling orgasm.   I've included a picture to help you figure out what to look for when you shop.