We all know that there was some heavy sexual tension between Mulder and Scully as we sat holding our breath during every X-Files episode.  But did we ever think it was possible for Mulder to be a sex addict?!  Hell no!  So maybe he and Scully were really gettin’ it on behind the scenes, between scenes and even after the scenes were over…we will never know.

With David Duchovny’s new cry for help as a sex addict, it has been bringing up a lot of questions regarding what makes someone a sex addict.  When you get to the real definition of what a sex addict is, it seems pretty serious.  Is this Duchovny’s way of getting some publicity, or is he as really serious as the disease itself?  Let’s define sex addiction.

A sex addict is someone who can answer yes to more than a couple of these questions:  

1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

2. Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

3. Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

4. Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

5. Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

6. Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

7. Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

8. Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

9. Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?

10. Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?

11. Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?

12. Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.”  The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Psychiatric Disorders, Volume Four says sex addiction also involves “compulsive searching for multiple partners, compulsive fixation on an unattainable partner, compulsive masturbation, compulsive love relationships and compulsive sexuality in a relationship.”So what do you think?  Are you a sex addict?  Leave comments, I’m curious to know how many of us are scratching our heads right now…

Dear Crystal...help!  When me and my boyfriend have sex, sometimes I get a thick white discharge on his penis.  It freaks him out and embarrasses me.  Sometimes I am totally clear and thin when I get wet.  Others, I'm not.  I don't know what it is so I can't ease my boyfriend's mind.  I've even had a boyfriend that would think that I had been with someone else that day and that was "his left overs coming out" and we would get in huge fights.  (That is a whole other issue anyway that is over.)  I go to the gyno every 6 months and I know I don't have an infection and it doesn't smell and I don't itch.  It's just different...why does this happen?

 -Natalie, California

 Hi Natalie,

      Thanks for writing!  I've heard this discussed before by so many women.  And they are all freaked out just the same.  Normally I get mad at guys for being so dense but when we are too afraid to ask questions ourselves, how are they ever going to learn?  Being grossed out though is a little overkill.  I would say though, that comes from the lack of knowledge.  Can you imagine if we never knew that hot, white stuff was supposed to come shooting out of their dicks and all of a sudden it did?  We would be freaked out too!  But since we know, although we don't want to eat it with a spoon or scoop it up with a tortilla, we swallow it, or let them spread it all over our face with the tips of their cocks and take it splattered all over out tits.  Now I'm ranting...Anyway, there is nothing wrong with you.  As our cycle and hormones change, so does our discharge.  We are discharging small amounts of fluids everyday, some days more than others.  Think of our pussies as a self-cleaning oven.  That is why douching is not really necessary.  If you were to ask your gyno why this happens to you, they would probably tell you it had to do with ovulating, your period coming on, how turned on you were or maybe other things.  I don't know which one is EXACTLY true and just like I said in my bio, I'm not a doctor.  But it seems that even gynecologist's views aren't the same all over the board as to why.  But one thing they do agree on is as long as it doesn't have an odor and doesn't have a greenish tinge, you are fine.  If I were you I'd watch the calendar, see if you can follow when it happens...a week before your period?  Two weeks after your last day on your period?  Maybe only when you are really turned on?  Don't be afraid.  And please try to get over the embarrassment soon.  The sooner you do, the less your boyfriend will pay attention to it.  (Or you can have him log on and read this.)  Have fun!

-Crystal

As we are awaiting another great question submission...I thought you might like if I shared a totally hot sexual experience that I've had with you all...enjoy!

 I was dating this Chilean guy for a while and we would make these “adult date nights” where I would get dressed up, we’d go out and have drinks, rent a dirty movie, pick out a new toy and go home and fuck all night.  One night after some sushi and sake, we stopped by Le Sex Shoppe and picked up Fashionistas with Belladonna and Rocco Siffredi, and a new cat o’ nine tails. Fast forward...we are in my living room on my cheap-ass metal-framed futon and the movie is playing in the background.  Belladonna is deepthroating Rocco and my Chileno is fastening my fuzzy, red handcuffs around my wrists and attaching them to the futon frame.  So now I’m naked on my knees, facing the back of the futon.  He’s walked away and I can hear him rummaging through my toy drawer.  As he walks back over, the light catches something in his hand.  It’s my glass butt plug. He comes over and puts it in my mouth and it clinks against my teeth as I try my best to lube it as much as possible.  He removes it and I feel the slightly warm tip start to spread my ass open.  He spins it to spread the wetness and applies pressure but my initial anxiety is making it hard to enter.  He rubs it around my pussyhole and is pleased to see it come away generously lubed.  Into my ass it goes.  My asshole swallows it to the stem.  With my ass in the air stuffed with my plug he can see into my asshole.  He gives my pussy a rub and walks away to the other side of the room and watches my ass hold the plug in while he strokes his cock.  I turn my head and see Belladonna bound by the wrists and ankles while another woman fucks her ass with a butt plug of her own.  I can’t help but be turned on.  He walks back over to me carrying our new cat o’ nine tails and the whipping commences. As my cheeks redden, he fondles his cock some more. He comes behind me and shoves his cock in me; his pelvis is pushing the plug in deeper.  I’m being double penetrated and I’m going nuts.  He pulls the plug out and marvels and the gaping hole it leaves behind.  He fingers it and watches my ass swallow the plug back up.  He pulls it back out and shoves it in my pussy while he jams his little cock into my ass. He presses my cheeks together trying to make the sensation tighter on his dick, but my ass is already all stretched out.  He plugs it again and starts working on my pussy.  Two fingers, three fingers and then I feel the fourth.  I’m so filled up but I feel him trying to work in his last finger.  It’s impossible.  But he’s getting it in there.  My pelvis is widening and more and more of his finger disappears.  I can’t believe how good it feels.  It’s like I have to pee but it’s driving me crazy.  I’m being fisted like a nasty slut in a porno and I like it so much.  He finally unlocks my wrists and puts me on the floor.  He’s trying so hard to gag me with his cock but it isn’t big enough.  He’s slapping me while his cock is in my mouth.  He takes turns between my ass and mouth for a while.  I’ve got saliva running down my tits and my ass is raw.  He finally cums all over my face and knocks out on the futon.  I’m left alone with Rocco and Belladonna.  While I play with my pussy I watch Rocco spit in Belladonna’s ass and it makes me cum. I love that movie.

Men Sentenced For Setting Friend's Crotch Ablaze

SAN LUIS OBISPO, Calif. - Two practical jokers are behind bars for setting their passed-out drinking buddy's crotch ablaze while boozing in Grover Beach. Matthew Craig Pillers and Jack Brent Nicholas Keiffer pleaded no contest to a felony great bodily injury charge.

Prosecutors say the 22-year-old Pillers, a parolee, was sentenced to two years in prison and the 19-year-old Keiffer got 45 days in San Luis Obispo County jail.

Elliot Tuleja was passed out when the men poured cologne on the man's groin and set him on fire on Jan. 18. Tuleja had second-degree burns on his testicles.

 -This is definitely NOT one of my fetishes...needless to say, I definitely doesn't advise this kind of behavior!     But what a bummer...

Hi Crystal,

      I'm hoping you can help me out with this one...my boyfriend keeps talking about this thing called "Rush" and how great it is.  He tells me that if we do it while we are having sex it will amplify the experience to like a thousand fold.  We already have good sex but he is a lot more hip to these kinds of things and I don't really know anything about it.  I've wikipedia'd it but it's so scientific, it's not like a friend telling you what it's like.  It sounds interesting, but I used to have a drug problem and I'm proud to be clean and sober for 3 years.  What if this brings all my urges back?  What if I like it so much I'm gonna wanna do it all the time?  Can you tell me anything about it?  I appreciate it...

 Clean and Sober in the Phoenix area...

Hey Clean and Sober! 

      First let me commend you in conquering your drug addiction!  Hooray!  As for your question, I will give you pertinent info on the drug and then give your down to earth info.  Rush or poppers is Amyl Nitrite.  Like you probably read on Wiki, it was first made to help people with angina.  It became popular as a recreational drug in the 70's by homosexuals as the rush of the drug causes your body to relax; for homosexuals this was helpful because it helped relax the sphincter muscles.  Later, it became popular with heterosexuals as it gives a short, acute, sharp high that can intensify sex.  Some people say it makes orgasms seem more intense and makes your genitals seem Herculean!  As far as your concern with it making you want to do drugs again or become addicted, there have never been reports of addiction.  People don't seem to have a problem just using them every once in a while.  Beware though that many people experience the mother of all headaches after.  And as far as dangers, don't by any means, use these if you have low blood pressure, circulatory problems, heart problems or breathing problems as it dilates your veins and arteries.  Another thing I would warn you is to make sure you use it with someone you trust as the high can make you make uninhibited decisions.  If you and your boyfriend are practicing safe sex, don't use it until you already have the condom on as you might get a case of the "fuck its" when using Rush.  How does it look or how does it come?  It comes in a glass vial, usually very small and when you open it up the liquid turns into fumes when it hits the air.  It has found a legal loophole and as long as it isn't being sold as an inhalant (you would need a prescription for that) it can be bought legally.  Most sex and adult stores carry them as room odourisors.  They can come under the moniker of Rush, TNT, Thrust, RockHard, Liquid Gold and probably many other names.  Most importantly, I wanna end this post by saying don't ever do anything you aren't comfortable with.  If you aren't comfortable with using Rush or you are scared, don't do it.  Not for him, not for anybody.  If he cares about you, it won't disappoint him that you don't.  If you do end up doing it, just make sure you are in good health and some where you are safe with someone you are safe with.  Good luck!

Greetings Crystal,

I am going away on a trip for a couple of months and my boyfriend isn't too happy about it. Of course the sex will be missed. I want to get him a little gift before I go. Do you think a pocket pussy will help him get through the drought that is coming his way? What can you recommend? I'm pretty sure we will be having phone sex so I want to get him something that will make that experience more realistic. I'm too shy to walk into a porn store and ask around! So, if you can also recommend a web site that offers a variety of options that would be so appreciated.

Thank you,

Bella from Chicago

Hey Bella!

     You are too sweet!  Every guy should have a girl like you!  How fun, I can think of lots of stuff...but what about for you?  One thing that I think is great for lovers but you have to give it to him before he goes is a Make Your Own Pussy and Make Your Own Dick kits.  They are so fun, you can help each other make an exact mold of your parts!  Then you can ride his dick all night long while you have phone sex and he can tear your pussy up just like if you were together!  But if you don't have time for that, body mold masturbators are always fun.  They are super soft and realistic-feeling molds of body parts like pussies, asses and mouths.  He slips his cock into them just like a cock sleeve and the other end is open so when he nuts off, it's easy clean up.  Make sure to get him lots of lube too.  I attached links and pics for you so the shopping will be easy.  Hope he has a great trip (wink, wink).

Haha... can't believe i'm on here but fuck it, I see other cats here too.

So, Crystal I know this girl who of course is fucken hot and a while back we dated but I was traveling a lot and I come back and she now has a dick for a boyfriend. I have tried to get her to go out with me a million times but she is so fucken loyal to that cunt and she either won't return my e-mails or just replies with something gay like, Hey Kid how r you and that's it. I don't even have her number, she changed it again...

My plan is to show up at her place and not take no for an answer and take her back to her favorite old place... MY house. Then maybe we will have a chance to talk and I can prove to her that this fucken ass that she has as a boyfriend is a fucken idiot and she needs to fucken come back to me. I have heard stories about this ass wipe and I know she could be happier with me. We never had sex but it was going there and I need to hear it from a gal's point of view (like you... a complete stranger) what your views are on this? I could easily move on and be with any other chick but this gal is my heart and she is fucken hot and sweet and what fucken makes me mad is that I know she will bend over backwards for her ass wipe boyfriend and most likely he won't even care... I admit it I let her go but i'm back and funny thing is that I hope you post this message and she reads it. Hopefully you help me out and agree with me on this one.

Peace "desperate for her" from Irvine

Hey there Desperate for Her,

     My initial reaction would be to say, "Whoa Nellie!"  You sound so angry.  You are gonna scare this chick before you even have a chance to woo her with your affections.  I would definitely steer you away from "not taking no for an answer".  That is a bad idea.  When she wanted you, you were unavailable.  Now that you are back, you can't just stomp into someone's life and demand attention.  What kind of emails have you been sending her?  I bet your emails are just as general as hers.  Why don't you tell her how you feel?  Women love to hear that guys actually have feelings too.  And if this guy is as much of a jerk as you say, then in no time she will be left in the dust needing some kind words and a shoulder to cry on.  And here you come, her knight in shining armor.  Be patient, if it was meant to be, it will be.  Stomping into her life and creating problems for her will only piss her off and there go your chances for sure.  Hope this helps.

-Crystal

Crystal,

Man... I'm pretty desperate. My girl is pretty much the hottest chick ever right? You'd think I would be stoked and just hold my head up high when ever she's around? WRONG! She is too hot for her own good and knows it. She comes and goes when she is in the mood for some hardcore sex but right after it she gets up and takes off! WTF?! At first, I was like what ever... I'm a man and that was pretty hot... but now i'm left feeling a bit used? I get hit on by hot chicks all the time.. so I know we make a good match... Everytime I bring this shit up she laughs and says: "Awh, you're so cute"... and tells me it's all in my head... she says that time is her biggest enemy and if she has to go... then she has to go! What is that suppose to mean?! The sex is amazing... but it's just not doing it for me anymore... Am I wrong for feeling this way? Do you think i'm not really satisfying her and that's why she is quick to jam out the door? What can I do? Waste my time... and hit it and quit it... or what? FYI: This just happened about 10 minutes ago... AGAIN! She banged the hell out of me and took off.. she didn't even bother to take her panties with her! I feel so lame...

Thanks,

Mike from Encino

Wow Mike, so the tables have turned...your bitch is so hot she can come and go as she pleases.  She use you for some good dick and then runs?  Hmmm, I'm used to getting this complaint from the opposite sex.  But what lots of girls don't know is that guys can feel used too.  Maybe in the beginning it seemed fun and even hot.  But now you are sitting there wondering if you have been used, and if you have, whether you like it or not.  I think it's time you really stop her and tell her how you feel, without letting her blow you off by telling you that you are cute and how sweet you are.  Tell her you are starting to feel unappreciated.  Put it in "I" terms.  Ask her if you are doing something wrong that is making her want to run off on you.  And if you guys are together, why aren't you spending time together not humping like bunnies?  But to answer your other question, I think if you weren't pleasing her she wouldn't be coming back for more.  I am positive that it all boils down to a communication problem.  Quit letting her run off, talk to her.  Even if that means holding her clothes hostage until she'll talk!

-Crystal